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I’m (Only) Human
There are 2 very different ways to use this phrase. As a way to excuse bad behavior As a way to offer yourself true grace when you fall short of
The Downside of Authenticity
Often when I’m coaching someone they begin to balk at the idea of practicing new thoughts that they have decided will better serve them. Even though they don’t have the
How We Hurt Our Own Feelings
We hurt our own feelings all of the time. We think someone else can hurt our feelings by what they say and do, but this isn’t true. Our feelings don’t
How to Get Out of Thought Loops
Thought loops. Rumination. Spinning thinking. Whatever you want to call it, sixes have plenty of it. For a long time this was why I hated waking in the middle of
How to Allow Negative Emotion
A cornerstone of personal growth is learning to allow all emotions in our life. I’ve written about the balance of emotions here. We exist in a culture that is only
7 Steps to Build Self Trust
We sixes are in the dependent stance. This means we will look anywhere and everywhere for answers to all our questions–and we have a lot of them–rather than within. We
5 Ways to Raise Your Emotional Temperature
Even though we humans have a vast array of emotions available to us at any given moment, we actually have a select few that govern the overall emotional tone of
Take Your Brain Out of the Box
Our brains are programmed from an early age without our permission. It’s as if our genetics and early environment took our brain, got it all set up and it back
What does giving up coffee have to do with building self trust
Coffee. Ahhhhh. I’m from the Pacific Northwest…they basically add it to baby food there. OK. Not quite, but I had my first coffee beverage at 15 and never really looked
Manuals
We get manuals when we buy things. Appliances, cars. The manual tells us how things should run and work. People don’t come with manuals, but we have them in our
Coaching my kid – thought work in action
My 8 year old lied to me this morning. Then I heard him repeat the same lie to his dad on the way out the door. Hmmm… First step: coach