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I’m (Only) Human

There are 2 very different ways to use this phrase. As a way to excuse bad behavior As a way to offer yourself true grace when you fall short of
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The Downside of Authenticity

Often when I’m coaching someone they begin to balk at the idea of practicing new thoughts that they have decided will better serve them. Even though they don’t have the
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How We Hurt Our Own Feelings

We hurt our own feelings all of the time. We think someone else can hurt our feelings by what they say and do, but this isn’t true. Our feelings don’t
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How to Get Out of Thought Loops

Thought loops. Rumination. Spinning thinking. Whatever you want to call it, sixes have plenty of it. For a long time this was why I hated waking in the middle of
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How to Allow Negative Emotion

A cornerstone of personal growth is learning to allow all emotions in our life. I’ve written about the balance of emotions here. We exist in a culture that is only
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7 Steps to Build Self Trust

We sixes are in the dependent stance. This means we will look anywhere and everywhere for answers to all our questions–and we have a lot of them–rather than within. We
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5 Ways to Raise Your Emotional Temperature

Even though we humans have a vast array of emotions available to us at any given moment, we actually have a select few that govern the overall emotional tone of
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Take Your Brain Out of the Box

Our brains are programmed from an early age without our permission. It’s as if our genetics and early environment took our brain, got it all set up and it back
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What does giving up coffee have to do with building self trust

Coffee. Ahhhhh. I’m from the Pacific Northwest…they basically add it to baby food there. OK. Not quite, but I had my first coffee beverage at 15 and never really looked
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Manuals

We get manuals when we buy things. Appliances, cars. The manual tells us how things should run and work. People don’t come with manuals, but we have them in our
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Coaching my kid – thought work in action

My 8 year old lied to me this morning. Then I heard him repeat the same lie to his dad on the way out the door. Hmmm… First step: coach
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