If you are here, you know what it means to be a six. You’ve read some posts, listened to some podcasts and you’ve identified with the anxiety, fear and self doubt that can plague us. I guarantee the thoughts that are the “sixiest” to you do NOT feel optional. I get it. Once I knew I was a six and started to learn about the reactive nature, the quest for security, the constant automatic mind leap to possible worst case scenario, I knew I was reading about my own brain it wasn’t pretty! I felt exposed and (shocker) fearful.
Like this actually (If this doesn’t make you laugh, I’m not sure we can be friends).
Then you read at the good ole Enneagram Institute about healthy 6 levels and that sounds pretty cool. “Become self-affirming, trusting of self and others, independent yet symbiotically interdependent and cooperative as an equal. Belief in self leads to true courage, positive thinking, leadership, and rich self-expression.” Etc. But…what?! How in the…
So, I did what I do in my six brain and I read all I could about sixes and the all the other numbers and went to workshops to understand more. I kept trying to understand…because we’re in the head triad of course. We are super thinky thinkers. Oh, but, curve ball, sixes, you are also thinking repressed. Um…pardon? I learned I should “trust myself” and “scan for security”. All with my repressed super thinker. Ah. OK. Great.
We have to somehow use our brain to start questioning our brain. This is the magic available to you when you start doing the work to see thoughts as optional. Your big stories and fears are just optional sentences in your head.
Does this sound freeing? Terrifying? Like a bunch of BS? Does it make you feel like our fox friend above?? Let me know!